Yesterday I was watching a so called “documentary” on MBC4 that carried the name “Forbidden Lies” in what seemed to be a reply on the book “Forbidden Love” written by the Jordanian-American author “Norma Khoury”, after watching the documentary – which evoked my curiosity – I found myself getting the book and reading it.
The book was written in English, the documentary was in English and all the articles that are related to the whole story were in English and that’s why I am writing in English, maybe so I’d correct the image of the Arab society in some readers’ minds, who were more than “500,000”, if they get to read this after reading the book.
The whole book was talking about the story of a girl called Dalya who was killed brutally by her father stabbing her 12 times in an “Honor Crime”. The book showed the Jordanian society as a primitive society that actually treats women as another piece of furniture. Women in Jordan according to the writer are not allowed to go out by themselves but to be escorted by one of their relatives… etc. of the other types of taking away women’s rights.
The Dalya story was about a Muslim girl, who was the writer’s friend, that fell in love with a Christian guy who works in the army, they had to meet secretly every Friday to make sure that her brother wont see them. The “love story” ended by her father killing her by stabbing her taking in mind, according to the writer, that “she didn’t do any thing wrong but loving him…and died as a virgin”.
I am not here to show all the Lies that were written in the book because they were clear to everyone that got to watch the documentary.
“Here is the link if anyone did not get to see it… http://www.youtube.com/view_play_list?p=27216E0A5D38BF3F”
I just would like to add that this writer talking about a society of a Muslim majority by showing how primitive people are there was what made her book published and get that famous at the first place. We have heard enough about “Women’s Rights” and how women are supposed to get their full rights in such societies showing that they don’t. I am not saying that women in our societies are being treated the way they should be. Women’s rights are centered on being treated the way they should be, with respect. They are not at all about the right of assaulting the Islamic religion and traditions. Our Arabic traditions have some pros and cons and that’s why i said “Islamic” because there is nothing about taking women’ rights away from them in our religion, so what we are supposed to do is fighting those cons as much as we can but still without assaulting our religious teachings.
In Islam no Muslim woman is allowed to get married to a non-Muslim guy. It’s our faith and we shouldn’t be fought in the name of “Women’s Right” to change one of our religion teachings. It’s not a case of falling in love and that love was forbidden. Everyone has the right to love and be loved. Human instincts cant’s be fought. And here i am not justifying a crime – which never happened. I am just saying that for this reason the writer chose her characters as Muslim girl and Christian guy.
Women have the right to be educated as same as men, they have the right to work and be effective in the society. They have the right to go out and have fun. They have the right to exercise their hobbies and favorite sport. But again without assaulting the religious beliefs and teachings. And most important of all “THEY HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE RESPECTED”.
Those are the rights we should make sure women get. And women should fight to get them. But the sad thing is that our minds in are being manipulated by all means by showing us that women’s rights are by being away and sometimes disobeying our religion.
I have written an article about a two months ago in Arabic under the name of “شرف” which means “honor” in english that talked about “Honor Crimes”.
We can’t deny that “Crimes in the name of Honor” is a shameful phenomenon in our society. There is no “honor” in crime. Killing is killing and killers must be punished with no mercy.
Those who talk about “Honor Crimes” usually talk about “The Jordanian Pedal Codes” and to be specific titles number 98 and 340. Yesterday I have reviewed those titles.
“ The Pedal Code, Num. 16 , Chapter 3, Part 1, Title 98 :
Benefit from the mitigating excuse the perpetrator of the crime who committed it in the fury caused by an unlawful and dangerous act by the victim.”
“ The Pedal Code, Num. 16 , Chapter 8, Part 1, Title 340 :
1- Benefit from the mitigating excuse, anyone who surprised his wife or his female kin in an act of adultery with another person and killed, cut or harm her or him or both.
2- Benefit the perpetrator to kill or injure or abuse from the mitigating excuse if he catches his wife or one of his ascendants or descendants or sisters with another on an illegal bed.”
Last time i checked “adultery” was forbidden by all religions.
I am not giving an excuse to killers but logically if we were to give excuses they were be given to those people that were stated in the previous laws “ONLY”. Now the real problem is that the law is being practiced in a wrong way totally by both people and judges. what really happens is that killers use these laws to justify their crimes. It seems to be that anyone who kills one of their relatives they use those laws in their arguments at trials. Fury status can’t be for long hours, days or even week. And actually if the one did not witness the act of adultery they shouldn’t be given reduced penalties – BY LAW. so how come most “Honor Crimes Criminals” get them?
That is the real problem we are facing.
We can’t just give the “Green Light” to every guy to every guy to kill a female and then blame it on the Honor.